Go to shopping malls search through Internet search engines or visit social networking websites there is this new kind of noise about giving back. People some how want to feel that they are givers. Nice noise but in real sense ‘giving’ will receive its right order of priorities only when it qualifies to joy of sharing not giving. Attitude of sharing is the sign of a healthy individual and harmonious society, while sense of giving is replete with being one-upped and that is denial of inherent Human Dignity. Apart from cooperation/help in Capacity building, education and health, a healthy humanity never needs anything as charity.
Fact is that human beings meet each other only on the real ground of sharing, else they do not meet, they may assemble or come together to celebrate/communicate or make a point keeping their perceived interests in mind, however, it may be albeit consciously or unconsciously/benevolently.
In real sense word meet means getting dissolved/melting. While giving do we really dissolve? Or come back with yet colossal ego of being a giver, Think it over?).
Suppose, some of us are coming forward to ‘give’ by cutting corners back home, in that case it would be termed as eseential/compulsory giving, at the behest/cost of sacrificial nature of people back home. There may be lot many possibilities hiding behind such ‘giving’. For example it may be due to affection for the person who wants to feel being a giver, other members in the family do not stop him/her despite wanting/needing to oppose, or it may be due to the force of tradition running in the family from generations. Surprisingly most of the time real compassionate leaders in the society come from such backgrounds where members of immediate family sacrifices to some extent.
Response/giving/charity becomes sharing the moment it is done to maintain order of priorities. It is like distributing a chapatti half and half between your progeny and neighbors child, while both of them have natural need to eat two chapattis each. Therefore by leaving the need of one person partially addressed we reach out to next person just to offer solace if not complete satisfaction to both that is giving, how many of us will qualify to being givers by this definition? But this is not our question; it is just an indication to have a mirror in front of us all the time. Pertinent question is, is it ideally desirable state of equilibrium in any society or broad humanity?
Contradiction may be seen in it when I say if we who are doing it in aforesaid manner then it is commendable activity on the part of the ones who are sharing it, but at the same time it is reflection on them among us who have more then what they need and are not ready to give or share.
Let me add here for the sake of bringing clarity that, life is full of seeming/apparent contradictions and the ones who know that there are no contradictions in essence, that this appearance is deceptive, that these are just dialects of ultimate inherent unity, therefore they need to focus their vision on inherent unity and not on apparent duality/contradiction/dialects, such ones stand firm footed on ground of sharing and upholding universal human values. Are we doing that?
Let me put it through an example, suppose bureaucrats/professionals/executives/politicians make a decision that henceforth no dereliction in duty, no bribe, no taking refuge by hiding behind the laws for scuttling progress. Instead they say yes to maximize work. Yes to fast movement of projects. Yes to make use of legal provisions to serve people in the best self imposed moral spirit to serve. Doing all this will be rightful giving because professionals receive (take) their salaries or remuneration in lieu of what they are doing (give) at job. This may be called ‘give and take’ in the present context of transitional phase of human society and market world over.
But, I doubt after doing their duties/jobs in aforesaid spirit there will be left any penny or any spare amount of time to ‘enjoy the joy of giving. Do I need to elucidate that honest professional hardly gets sufficient to survive in his/her positioned/acquired place in society (read market) and to maintain corresponding standard of life, which mostly maintained to show/exhibit to others for a plethora of reasons ranging from resemblance to exoticism, finally ending in to madness/senselessness of sorts, if wisdom doesn’t dawn upon them. This holds true for 99% excepting 1% who command 99% of wealth and power.
Imagine businessmen decide to make money only on the qualitative-strength of product and services so on and so forth. Imagine all political parties unanimously agree on ushering in electoral reforms that wipes out the need of money power in winning the elections altogether and gives way to clean and honest service minded people instead of the ones who are ruling the roost. And imagine little more (after all this rest in imagination only) if all this is done after shedding the extra baggage of amassed ill-gotten money that pinches to conscientious beings among them or give sleepless nights in the age of wikileaks. Then, after some time we will notice that there will be no need to organize such cosmetic ‘giving’ get-togethers necessitated by the lack and want.
So long as feeling of giving remains feeling of receiving cannot be wished away. In fact there is no joy in giving it is only in sharing. If one gets joy in giving then somewhere deep down in universal mind it is just pity camouflaging as piety. Mind you! When piety runs, pity run away and vice versa.
This is so because market has become arbitrator in the society and market values are replacing human values openly and surreptitiously as well, tragedy and irony is that all this is happening entirely inside all of us, we all are participants in empowering market’s grip on our humaneness/sensitivity’s neck. It (façade of giving) will also turn in to mere sloganeering, as especially in our country (and world over in various names like occupy movement etc) these days remove corruption (bhrashtachar hatao) has become.
Those of us who have the courage and clarity to look within and without, know fully well that corruption is inside us as individuals and therefore the moment we resolve to clean it from our mind it will not manifest outside, if outside noise helps in awakening this truth inside all then it would be termed as a job well done, else we will not progress. But what to do? as common people, do not have access to mass media/platform to express disliking for this forced order of priorities of wants on their natural order of priorities based on needs, except by joining them and if despite joining them some of us who try to keep their conscience it doesn’t take much to get identified as odd men out. And odd men literally ‘helped’ to go out. So what is the way out, think over it? New media may hold the key! Why we need to advocate for the ownership of media by not for profit organizations or why media organizations must be run in the spirit of not for profit, to begin with.
As, expressing our dislike alone can help us exorcise these ghosts (of diverse kinds of false identifications) from our soul. As there is complex interplay of market forces to gag the reality and encourage superficiality, glorifying consumerism is one such market force unleashed to capture mind-space. On the other hand suppression of expressing ourselves as human beings is throttling human values and yielding mind space to consumer being in us. Think it over, why this Kolaveri?
Most of us branded as middle class people, who are in demand in the market due to our hard earned professional skill sets or due to our entrepreneurial abilities to recognize potential to cater to wants (as the case may be), and hence have access to buy purchasing power to survive as nuclear families (mostly remaining on the periphery, yet posing as if we are in the center), even we cannot comprehend logically how this is happening, that irrespective of almost every material possession being at our beck and call we are not at peace with ourselves, we do not have joyful countenance and we do not have requisite spare time (and after a point neither physical nor moral health) at our disposal to observe ourselves objectively, but all of us do feel the pinch. Ironically/tragically we may have more time to ourselves if we choose to become poor. Why is that so? Is there a flaw in our current development theory and arbitration of society having passed in the hands of market, yet being propagandize as if it were still at will of the state empowered by we the people?
Today, we find misbalance in human relations that gives place to artificiality in life. And we coin such concepts which camouflaging our real concern as human beings, give us a superficial sense of belongingness. We try to fool our hearts, all the time. Yet, steeped in its wisdom, Poor our heart keeps us forgiving till it lasts. Poor organ! Suffers because of being most sensitive. We do not do justice to our own body even. Why are we so cruel to ourselves?
For example, look around you and you will notice people yelling at their real aged parents while sympathizing with old people on tv screens depicted in serial and films under similar plight. We see husbands beating wives in real life and crying when some husband or in-laws do it in a narration on screen. What is this? And more pertinently why is this?
Expressing ourselves aesthetically through arts is commendable and worth aspiring activity, and it is positive indication that society has a rich cultural reservoir, it should be encouraged, but losing sense of discerning, that what is real and what is artificial, is a sure sign of decay of human values and wisdom. Objective of arts is to make us sensitive as real-beings and not to lull us by deporting to a utopian surrealism. Arts are for living beings; living beings are not for arts of living. Order of priority must be set right. It is blurring of line. Yet, liberality says instead of asking who is responsible for it, let us ask what is responsible for it?
All such activities that glorify charity hid some decaying facet of humanity. Except for capacity building purposes to supplement the efforts of state; that too, whenever its equilibrium is found disturbed. Otherwise, need for charity is a statement on morality of concerned nation state and in the larger sense on the morality of worldwide humanity.
Ponder over it bit more deeply!
Let me put it through an example how morality is compromised in media openly and no body finds it objectionable. A player/actor whom people came to adore because he turned out an excellent performer in his/her field activity endorses a product with some message attached cleverly, which s/he doesn’t really need to use or believe in using. Is this endorsement/happening/activity not corruption? Meditate over it.
Media earnestly vies to spread such message in the form of advertisement. Such is the mad-earnestness to reap the financial profits that media owners are hell bent on pushing their respective institutions/brands to the stage of message becoming the medium. Greed is making them forget that ideal of media is –‘medium is the message’ and not other way round. Now what is the hurdle that they still could not fully capture our consciousness and push us to a reality, where there will be no option but to handover our freedom to hyper-consumer in us instead of abstemious being in us? It is credibility (much to their dismay who wish to transform us in to hyper-consumer), which in the ultimate run survives on human values in the open. A wikileak comes and instantly becomes darling of the world. ‘News of the world’ despite being for hundred and fifty years in existence had to shut the shop immediately. A human heart has inherent mechanism to differentiate, but honesty in media would have made heart’s burden less. If media is doing the reverse by saying that ‘I (media vehicles) am also a product choose if you have to’ then why should we call it media? And if it says I am not a product like any other then let it owes a duty to tell us how not it is? That too in a transparent, responsible and accountable manner every time it comes/appears before us. Else, it should realize that we know that appearances that do not carry human values may be deceptive.
Medium is the message